Naveen Bommakanti. Relationships require work when the times are odd. Especially when everything turns against each other’s shared moments, planned future and beautiful dreams, couples need each other backs. If both really decided to stay together, you make efforts and fight for each other. At least the one with higher esteem inspires the other in the darkest hours. If both strengths become equal then against all odds, love survives and continues to breathe. It will live on forever because you know how to love and not to give up on life. Nonetheless, if the work you put into your relationship didn’t work out and the entire energy drained and every possibility turned down – It is simply a sign that relationship not meant to be. Whatever may be the reason for your breakup – Whether you broke up with them or they rejected you or any tragic consequences, the pain of loss is such inexplicable grief. It becomes much harder when the bond both build with each other is a soulful connection. Nothing will replace with such void. So,
Why is it hard to let to go and how to get over someone you love deeply?
Life is a tragedy. It is not easy to let go of someone we love. It is too difficult to let go of the pieces of the past. We are too weak to flush the memories of the most loving moments of our lives. we are weak because weakness represents strength. We are weak because we are beloved humans. And we are weak as we tasted most of life’s naked truths. Therefore, it is hard to get over someone we love deeply. Still, we are breathing in the bit of hope to experience the clear rays of love as a whole, instead of phases. If you come across your dark past in the near future, perhaps you tend to be still as if you have no feelings left to weave the present. You will be in deep sorrow even your tears fail to express such intense suffering. In such moments let it go, jut forgive yourself, remain calm and remind yourself. It’s no one’s fault. We are our own choices trapped in our own responsibilities, travelling as a lonely stranger in the path of very strange reality. Accept it and move on. Let me redefine the history of love failure. Perhaps, the only solution to get over someone you deeply love is not to move on, but to move in. Space is all we need to move in and All we need is ourselves to experience the burden of such inexplicable emotions. Recommended read: How to stop being emotionally attached to someone?
How long does it take to get over someone? and how to deal with heartbreak?
No matter what, whether you broke up or in a relationship, if two individuals are emotionally and mentally healthy then it doesn’t require any work irrespective of the consequences. Because in between both of your hearts there is a sensible layer called “Understanding” effortlessly helps you to deal with each hardship. Such mutual connection keeps inspiring in each other’s togetherness and absences. No words, no actions play a crucial role when you sync with each other’s silences. According to study conducted by Journal of Positive Psychology, as per their research, it takes 11 weeks to feel better after a relationship ends. But another research discovered it takes almost 18 months to get over the relationship. (Source) However, In order to deal with heartbreak it depends on the level of intimacy, connection with each other and what situations made you both apart. Some people will never get over someone they loved in their entire life. The truth is we never forget. But we learn to deal with time as well as our thoughts. The better our thoughts, the less time it takes to become ourselves from breakup.
5 Unique ways to deal with breakup, pain, loss and rejection.
Mutual Understanding: Make sure you ended your relationship correctly.
One of the primary problem why most of the couple face is by breaking up the relationship chaotically. Rather than thinking critically, the better way is to think with common sense. It’s appropriate to accept the decisions of others and let go. Why would you work on so hard in a relationship who doesn’t realize the beauty in you In the first place? When things didn’t work out, make sure you both communicate again for one last time and end up things with mutual understanding for the betterment of each other’s peaceful future sake. This way to a greater extent the burden of the heart will come to an ease, and you feel much better. Highly Recommended read: Questions to a guy/girl to get to know deeply
Empathy and logic: Balance your emotions by seeing the situations as they are.
If you experience the results of breakup subjectively, perhaps, It will be much harder to deal with actual facts. The fact is your relationship already ended. And the simple way to realize it completely is by thinking logically. Instead of beating up your head by taking everything so personally and for granted, just think why in the first place the relationship didn’t work? Does the pain you are allowing really has any value? Apply the reverse psychology to feel better and to see the things more clearly. Show empathy, feel the pain but do not become a victim to the fate. Choose your suffering consciously, every loss has some lesson to teach. Learn from the mistakes and evolve by choosing to become better. Soon the good days begin to appear.
Optimism: Think and work for a better future.
No matter how worse the outcomes of a certain life’s decisions and the uncertainty in it. Learning from the past, evolving into the future and continue to process and upgrading the mind, heart and soul are the best ways only a healthy developed personality chooses to aspire. Be optimistic and think that the end of one thing is the beginning of another for the better. In such a way you see much more possibilities of growth mentally, emotionally and psychologically in your life.
Admiration: Practice and master the traits you admire about them.
It’s obvious that we draw towards a few of their exceptional traits which basically are the root of the connection that hold us back to them. In order to fill that void, the only way is to create an extra space and replicate it with their positive characters. In such a way you won’t crave for their presence as you created them by yourself. You will learn to live emotionally independent.
Move inwards to move on: Practice self-care to care others.
Once, If you confirmed that the relationship is over. It’s time to reflect inside for self-care to heal your wounds and become the next best version of yourself. Be true to yourself. Once if you develop the necessary traits within you that you are looking for in others and in a relationship. For sure, the right people will gravitate towards you. And thereafter your life will never be hard as past. Because you not just learned to move in but move on too. Conclusion: Appreciate and embrace the ones whom you are with now. Spend more of your time by working on the purpose of your life and goals that bring much sense and meaning to your life and add value to the world. By time and thought you will definitely become the person whom you ought to be. Related post about relationships: How to find if he or she is the right person for lifelong relationship. For more updates about love, love and inspirational quotes written by me, connect with me on Instagram and Twitter. We don’t spam! Read our privacy policy for info.
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